Fear and love cannot coexist

Day Six –  lent challenge – fear 

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us. ” –Marianne Williamson

We fear what we don’t know , the children that I have cared for don’t know love, they have trouble connecting to others managing their own emotions , lack trust and self worth , they are angry and often feel unsafe and alone, their lives are controlled by fear.
When you first become a foster carer you just think they just need love, and they do need love, they need it so much. But they fear love
But it’s just not as simple as loving them Years of negative experiences and negative relationships leave these young children feeling repeatedly abandoned, isolated, powerless, or uncared for—they will learn that they are unloveable and can’t depend on others and the world is a dangerous and frightening place.
Living in fear these children are sad, you can see it in their eyes , they have a sort of emptiness about them an inner sadness, but somewhere also locked deep inside is love, love that is to afraid to come out in case it’s rejected again.
Many of these children have parents that live in fear unable to break the cycle they pass fear onto their children instead of love , but all these children are loved by god and loving foster carers and adoptive families, they can learn to love they might not love back straight away but given time and they will be able to move from fear to love.

Psalm 34
4 I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.

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